Anonymous asked: What are you going to do now that Michael James is moving out?
I’m still pretty undecided. I may move in with others, or on my own. Perhaps move in with a client prepared to pay my rent ;)
and this was her reply:
"Darling, I know you’re happy and I’m really happy for you. I just want you to be happy full stop."
"I agree that you should have a gender change because you are definitely more girl than boy and you have to live the rest of your life in the right body. Boob job is the easy bit hon, been there, done that! Not sure about the other ‘bits’ though!! Perhaps you’ll make the time to explain it to me as it must be very complicated."
"Anyway, I always wanted a girl. What you going to call yourself then?
Love you xxx”
Every action we make is a selfish one unless the action is, in EVERY way possible, detrimental the thing making it. Selflessness is an illusion. People make seemingly altruistic actions, but choose to make those actions because it makes them feel better. For example, giving to charity is not truly selfless because although it is materialistically detrimental to the donor, it is also mentally and/or socially rewarding. By socially rewarding I refer to the cascade of benefits pertaining to being seen to have done something altruistic by other people. Selflessness also feels better when other people know what you’ve done and public displays of ‘selflessness’ can develop your perceived character in other people’s minds which can lead on to good opportunities. For example, people who are percieved to be very selfless may be more easily trusted and are more likely to be helped out by others when they are in need… and martyrs, well… aside from the self righteous rush of chemicals that must invigorate them; they have their name go down in history.
To cut a long argument short, I’m selfish and I’m not afraid to admit it, so please don’t remind me that everything I do is for my own benefit.
An animation to display the early profile result of my recent nosejob :) The tip of my nose is likely to reduce slightly as swelling decreases in the coming months.
N.B. This picture probably also includes subtle hormonal changes to my face as I am sexually transitioning. Reblog!
I have an obscene amount of questions in my inbox from anonymous people.
If anyone has any more questions about transgender this or that, I am happy to answer, but my whole blog is not going to become a TG Q&A so don’t make your questions anonymous - then I can answer you privately.
meatcleaverbeaver-deactivated20 asked: When I was younger I used to wish I was more young-looking or boyish. I have since accepted my appearance and adapted a more fitting aesthetic to aspire to. I'm not criticizing you for taking drastic measures to achieve your desired appearance. However, do you feel that your decision to take hormones stems more from a desire to keep your appearance from masculinizing than a burning desire to become a girl like many transsexuals describe?
No, it is not just a feminine appearance that I wish to get out of changing my gender. I prefer being treated as a woman in a societal context. Socially, I really enjoy being a girl.
I’m not like most transsexuals though. I do not feel I have gender dysphoria. I just want to transition because I believe it would bring me happiness to do so from many different angles, particularly socially, sexually and aesthetically. I do not feel as though I’m a girl trapped inside a boy’s body.
handhugger asked: Thanks for sharing your progress with every one. Im gay and i used to hate guys who were transgendered or transitioning, but you are the first one to NOT say that its "god's" fault, that he made the mistake of putting you in the wrong body, you simply say it as it is, you want to be female because it makes you happy and i think that is the reason that it should be, not any ones fault, thanks for being true to every one andsharing with us your life literally. enjoyed reading your blog. xo sergio.
The whole ‘born in the wrong body’ thing just isn’t me at all… I could live as a male, I just think long-term I’d be happier living life as a woman. I also didn’t wanna suppress my feminine aesthetic by not taking hormones. I feel like my body is working with me in accomplishing my desired image instead, which is lovely!… I no longer feel I’m perpetually fighting with issues like facial hair and fat distribution.
Everyone has their reasoning for becoming TS. Many are very precious about it and wouldn’t even agree that for me it was a choice. I think that’s a bit sad personally…. I am my own person and I’m very comfortable saying that I made the choice to become transsexual as I felt it would bring me happiness, particularly long-term.
Anonymous asked: do you have a public Facebook?
I have a public fanpage (/sphirex) and a private profile (/sphi.decourcy).
I spent a fortune on jewellery today! These are some of the Butler & Wilson pieces. The camera doesn’t really do it justice, but I thought I would share anyhow. :)